Sleep Regressions

In the last few years, we have heard a lot more about sleep regressions. When they happen, why they happen, how long they last… We all know that sleep can get crazy around these times. 

So let's talk about what is actually happening when regressions happen.

When we think of sleep regressions, we usually just think about the sleep component. We don’t see the WHY behind the sleep struggles. It may be more helpful to use the term PROgression instead of regression, because these “sleep regressions” are a sign (not the cause) of development in our child.

There are three phases of a developmental leap, and unfortunately, the first phase is where we see the disruption in sleep. This is when we see the 3 C’s- Crankiness, Clinginess, and Crying. You may not see the new skill yet, so it seems random and unexplained, but after some time, the crankiness fades and the new skill emerges. This leads into phase 2 and mastery of the new skill. Then brings phase 3 and we see clinginess decline and independent play emerge.

So what do we do through these sleep progressions (or regressions)? The best thing we can do is remain consistent with your routine and schedule for your little one, while making sure to add extra cuddles and loves while they need you extra amounts. 

Early waking is fairly normal during these regressions. Do your best to keep your regular wake up time. When we get our baby or toddler out of bed and turn on the iPad so we can get 20 extra minutes of sleep, there is now an incentive for them to wake up earlier. Look through your morning routine and see if there is anything incentivizing your child to wake up earlier. Cuddles in your bed, while great, can be an incentive for your child to wake up earlier.

You may notice Baby up during the night wanting to “practice” their new skill. When my oldest was about 6 months old, she would wake up in the night to sit up, then fall asleep and fall over and wake up crying. It was so silly and- to me- illogical. If you notice your little one up during the night and they are happy, you can leave them be. 

Another thing we can do to help is give space to practice these skills through the day. If the skill is rolling, give plenty of time on the floor during the day to allow that practice. If the skill is a verbal development, take some time to have “conversations” with your little one. 

If you want to learn more about these skills and how to help your child through developmental leaps during the first few years, you can check out the Wonder Weeks book. There are lots of details on the development and what you can do to help.

If you need help with sleep during a regression, head over to my Work With Me page and we can schedule a time to talk.